My Christ-Like Project

Inspired by Gretchen Rubin’s The Happiness Project, I have a project of my own.  Instead of doing this by month (January she works on improving her happiness through Energy, February through her marriage, etc), I am just going to share my 12 commandments and then my own growths for each of the 11 topics.

What is important about my project is that it is not just about happiness.  My goal is not to be happy, but to grow towards Christ and becoming Christ like. Thus, being happy is not the end to which I want to move, but rather towards a life that in every way reflects the deep love and compassion, the awe and the wonder of Christ. So, not a happiness project but a Christ-like project.

10 Commandments

  1. Be James.
  2. Love Christ and his people.
  3. Be compassionate.
  4. Enjoy the process.
  5. Challenge is good.
  6. Identify the problem.
  7. Lighten up and have fun.
  8. Do what ought to be done.
  9. No calculation.
  10. Don’t stonewall.

Growing Specifically: Habit Improvements


  1. Pray a daily prayer.
  2. Practice examen daily.
  3. Sing, sing, sing. (worship!)
  4. Send encouragement cards.
  5. Develop a Sabbath.


  1. Laugh out loud.
  2. Start each day with gratitude.
  3. Practice reframing.
  4. Dare to fail.


  1. Sleep better.
  2. Make life an adventure.
  3. Aim for 11,000 steps a day.
  4. Sit down more.


  1. Pay attention to what I am feeling.
  2. Be open to the experience of others. (culture, religious, ethnic, etc)
  3. Slow down and look up.
  4. Eat slowly.


  1. Be frustrated out loud. (This seems incongruous to a Christ like project but I have to genuine and honest with my wife Elana)
  2. Compliment often.
  3. Find fun together.
  4. Be physically affectionate. (snuggling, kisses, sex)


  1. Play without phone distraction.
  2. Get involved with Aiden.
  3. Practice validation.
  4. Be a teacher to the kids. (camping, games, school)


  1. Have fun with colleagues.
  2. Learn new skills.
  3. Practice saying no.


  1. Learn new things.
  2. Go off the path. (new, strange, etc)
  3. Make one new recipe every week.
  4. Call family on Sundays.


  1. Be generous.
  2. Listen more, talk less.
  3. Don’t complain.
  4. Initiate opportunities to hang out.


  1. Spend ahead, not in the moment.
  2. Give to church.
  3. Always have something on hand to share.

Pursue a Passion: Be outdoors!

  1. Play disc golf.
  2. Enjoy a walk.
  3. Start a garden.
  4. Interact more with my dogs.
  5. Find new opportunities.


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